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Sculpturing Your 2017

February 10, 2017

Life is littered with broken New Year resolutions – even the mere mention of resolutions can create a taunting feeling.  Maybe ‘lifestyle fine tuning’ is a better mind-set for making 2017 count for you.  Here are some suggestions – (start off just choosing one thing from each category to focus on):

 

Weight Management:

 

The Guts of It:  In the absence of any biological problem (eg thyroid issues), the following are the main factors driving weight gain:

  • Gluten & other allergies

  • Excess blood sugar (glucose) ie eating too many carbs

  • Stress *

  • Lack of physical activity

  • Portion sizes

To achieve healthy, safe and permanent results all of the above factors need to be addressed for example, if the portion sizes are ok but if you a sensitive to gluten then you will still put on weight.

* When one is stressed, adrenal glands release a hormone called cortisol, which makes you fat.  Cortisol also breaks down lean muscle which in turn slows metabolism.  Stress and emotional eating happen when one forms an association between food and some emotional state, such as comfort, joy etc. 

In a Nutshell

  • Portion size is a key driver to weight gain/loss – conquer this one first – (use the Virtual Gastric Band hypnosis for help)

  • Muscle burns fat

– therefore exercise eg weight sessions are good

  • Cardio workouts are also very good for burning calories

  • Muscle weighs 3X as much as fat

– therefore scales are irrelevant

  • Carbs become sugars, sugars become fat if not burned off

  • therefore small carb (low GI) portions are better

  • Natural fats are OK in small amounts

Be careful of labels saying “skinny” or “lite” or “fat free” because they often contain extra sugars which leads to weight gain

 

 

Stress Management

 

It is interesting that the increased pace of life means we often notice when we are calm rather than when we are stressed. 

 

Stress in a Nutshell 

  • Regularly practice deep relaxation especially breathing

  • A regular program of exercise

  • Reduce  stimulants (caffeine, sugar etc.)

  • Elimination of allergies (eg wheat)

  • Adequate nutrition (eg. cut out simple carbs)

  • Learning to acknowledge &express feelings

  • Adopting ‘self talk’ which promote a calmer attitude to life

Strategies for stress relief – behavioural

  • Yoga / Pilates

  • Mindfulness & Deep Breathing

  • Meditation

  • Exercise

  • Massage

  • Music

  • Humour

  • Counselling

  • Weight management

 

Relationships

 

The following are some handy relationship maintenance tips:

Create genuine commitment by; spending pleasurable time together, sharing each other’s world and frequent reassurance of your love.  Commitment starts with a decision – decide to be committed.

Become emotionally connected.  Connecting requires not only bonding but also more importantly intimacy.  Bonding is a shared experience, which includes physical proximity, while intimacy includes emotional closeness and mutual vulnerability (ie sharing feelings).  Talking openly and sharing each other’s life creates connection.

 

Show that you value your partner by:

  • Giving their happiness high priority.

  • Showing an interest in your partner’s life.

  • Showing you value your partner’s input.  (Appreciation)

Maintain best friend & physical chemistry by:

  • Giving the relationship top priority i.e. doing relationship maintenance including creating romance.

  • Creating an emotional safe zone by: Being approachable, being open to hear your partner without defensiveness and anger.  Eliminate the need to ‘walk on eggshells’

  • Listening to each other from the heart.  Be present.

  • Creating relationship equality through respect and fairness.

  • Commitment to peacemaking; i.e. begin working on restoring the trust quickly if it is broken.

  • Commitment to work on self-love eg clearing away baggage from childhood etc.

  • Commitment to personal development.

 

Some Lifestyle Changing  Mindsets

  • Learn to distinguish what is important and what isn’t.

  • Refuse to feel, talk and act like a victim.

  • Give up the need for control – as the things you want to control sometimes end up controlling you.

  • Be flexible in your thinking and actions -  go with the flow

  • Learn to live each moment in the present.

  • Dare to be yourself.

  • Understanding your needs –physical, emotional, spiritual

  • Cultivating self-acceptance by being willing to embrace your weaknesses

  • Learn to ask for help

  • Share your problems with people who know how to ‘listen’.

  • Look at situations in life as either lessons to be learned or challenges to be met.

  • Learn to forgive, you deserve the release it can give you.

  • See and appreciate life as an unfolding process – instead of a heap of meaningless unmanageable fragments

  • Be able to laugh at yourself.

  • Let go of guilt and resentment

  • Give smiles and hugs and ask for them in return

  • Surround yourself with only ‘positively-focussed ‘ people.

  • Refuse to play the part of a “Superwoman or Superman”

  • See the cup as half full rather than half empty.

 

MAKE 2017 COUNT

 

 

About Chris Newell:  Chris is the owner of NeWell Life Solutions, he has professional qualifications in hypnosis, psychotherapy, counselling and nutrition.  He has particular expertise in weight loss, improving relationships, managing anxiety, emotional healing and communication skills.

Phone:  0412269995 for an appointment on the Mornington Peninsula or 94313933 in Eltham

 

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